The success of any relationship largely depends on attitude. You can’t deny that in general, you are more attracted to people that have a positive attitude. Being positive and upbeat shows in nearly everything you do, as does being negative and glum. Think about who you enjoy being around. Would you choose to hang out with that person who is always negative and glum or would you prefer to be around positive, upbeat people?
We all know this stuff right? Still, waiting on “the right one” can be tough, sending you immediately off in the direction of Glumville. Or do you think you are just marked with bad luck because that special someone hasn’t come along? You’ve got to remember attitude is everything, and the troubled plea of “Where is Mr./Mrs. right already?” could be the reason your perfect someone has not appeared in your life yet. Try and take a step back and slow the process down a bit.
Remember, you receive what you give out to the world and if an anxious-oh-this-is-never-going-to-happen attitude takes over, well, what do you suppose will happen? With the movie screen and book filled with perfect romantic interests all with perfectly happy endings,it could be that you have decided your perfect mate exists only on film or paper. Certainly, the good catches are not out here in the real world and therefore could never be out there waiting for you? Again, if this is your thought process then: BINGO! You have got it. That exceptional individual that is just yours and yours alone really does not exist anywhere except in your imagination.
A positive attitude reflects confidence and self-respect. As you know, confidence and self-respect are vital in gaining trust. That is faith in one’s self to know that you are whole with or without another. A positive attitude also directly affects how other people feel when they are around you. For example, have you ever had a friend or co-worker who was always down or
pessimistic? If you have, did you notice that after a little while his or her mood started making you and actually the entire workplace feel down, uncomfortable or irritable?
Chances are you have. Indeed it has happened to all of us. Remember – if for no other reason than to not be a dark cloud hanging over everyone’s head – try your best to be positive and maintain a good attitude. This idea of a glass being full goes much further than the glass. Being negative simply will not work when you are seeking to make your best impression. You must feel good before you can make anyone else feel good. You have to radiate the same kinds of feelings you want to receive. If you are not giving off those positive vibes well, everyone will pick up on it and most likely steer clear of you.
The bottom line is people love happy people. No, this does not mean you need to be a Johnny-on-the-spot with a joke after every sentence. It does mean that you will be easier to be around if you are calm, cool and smiling. So, let go of that poor attitude and poor performance. Bring on the sunshine and get out into the world with a smile!
You don’t need to continue blaming yourself for your role in this search for the perfect partner. The truth of the matter is the reason your perfect someone has not appeared has nothing to do with your luck, good or bad. It does, however, have everything to do with you. The fact is this: you are busy looking for a person who doesn’t exist! That extraordinary person will not be perfect because no one is perfect. Not even you, my friend. Dating with your eyes closed or some impossible image in your head just keeps you stuck wishing and waiting. Don’t get so caught up in the qualities, looks, or perfection that you forget to simply get out there and date. Most people know that first impressions are important, but you can’t get to really know someone on a first date.
Don’t be so over confident that you examine everyone you meet under a magnifying glass. Being too critical will definitely not give you the results you want. The important thing is that you go out and meet people – lots of people. You will know exactly what to look for in that special someone once you are sure of what you want.
What are the qualities you feel are necessary for a person to be “the one”? Think of some of the attributes you are willing to compromise on for the sake of a second, and perhaps, a third meeting. Remember, nobody on this earth is perfect. Everybody has faults. Some are bigger faults than others. While you can overlook some, there are other shortcomings in which you could not excuse. Don’t base your opinion of someone’s quality of character on looks. Even on the best day of the most beautiful, most sexy person on the planet, they will still have attributes that you consider good and bad.
Just remember to go easy with anyone you meet the first time. It takes a while for people’s true nature to be seen thoroughly. Try not to think of the end-result, but just have fun in the whole experience of the getting out, meeting people and taking the time to get to know them. You will never know who is going to end up a friend, an acquaintance, or a lover.